Should I invite these people to my wedding??

well I'm planning on getting married next year and I'm just starting to plan some things now. I work with a small group of about 20 women, 2 of them I can't stand and I know they don't like me either. So do I invite them just to be nice and keep the peace when I know they won't come anyway or do I cut the crap not be phony and don't invite them because I just don't like them?
Should I invite these people to my wedding??
If the feelings are clearly mutual, I wouldn't invite them! You want to enjoy your day, right? So don't invite "bad company"!!!
Reply:I can see how you might be torn. Sure keep the peace and not let more possible tension arise or say what ever they are not important to you and this is YOUR day. Really in the end I doubt they are expecting an invitation. Just place it off your shoulders and if questioning comes out of it, tell them the truth and say I didn't think you would be interested, that's all.





Congrats and have fun!
Reply:When you are dealing with a workplace, it is always best just to keep the peace. You never know what will happen in the future, and whether these people may one day be your supervisor or subordinate...or may hinder your professional advancement. Invite them just like you would with everyone else, and just expect their likely "decline" to attend. This way, when you take time off to deal with wedding stuff or have time off on your honeymoon, they are probably less likely to moan and groan about it, since you did graciously invite them to participate in your festivities.
Reply:Inviting co-workers is always a problem. Some who don't get invited get their a$$ on their shoulders about it...and they can make your life a living hell at work if they want to. Others get offended or have their feelings hurt...they can also make life difficult for you at work.





If you can't invite everyone, don't invite anyone unless they are close personal friends. The kind of people you socialize with outside of work.





Never underestimate what a disgruntled co-worker can do to you professionally.
Reply:Well, I wouldn't care what the fallout was and if they asked me, I would just let them know that we have never been friendly and that's why I didn't invite them. However....





If you want to avoid any kind of confrontation, you should probably just invite them. It's only two people and they likely won't come anyway since you said they don't like you.





It's up to you, just depends what you are willing to say and deal with.
Reply:A lot can change in a year. You hardly need to be worrying about your guest list now.
Reply:only invite those you sincerely..... WANT to attend, anything less would be typically politically correct nonsense.... it is after all .....your party ? correct ?
Reply:Invite only the few of your work friends who you want at your wedding. I always thought it was stupid to invite all these people from work when you only hang out with 4 or 5.
Reply:Cut the crap and don't invite them. Simply say (if they ask), "Sorry, but we're having a small wedding with limited seating so we can only invite those we're really close to."





The "limited seating" excuse always works because it makes it sound like other people had to get cut, too.





If they don't like you, they'll completely understand. They're probably not expecting invites anyway.
Reply:dont be phony dont invite them...nothing is worse then fake people..if you invite them wont they know something is up anyways
Reply:Hi. I would be the bigger person and invite them if you are inviting the others. Who knows, by next year things could change for you (and them) and perhaps you will be getting along better.





If it was me, I would feel totally uncomfortable if I did not invite them. Obviously, as the date gets closer, you will be asked about your wedding, or they will hear you talking about it, so it's best to just invite them.





If things are the same in another year, then at least you extended the invitation. The ball will be in their court then and they can choose to accept or decline.
Reply:Just invite them. If they don't want to come thats up to them. But be nice about it.
Reply:I think you should just invite them, if they dont come that's their problem. But if you dont invite them then they might start something. So just invite them and get it over with.
Reply:dont invite them. they probably r waiting 4 u to invite them so that they can laugh about it and not come. dont invite them
Reply:It's your wedding - do you really want them to be there on your special day??? This is what I thought when planning my wedding. To avoid the drama, my husband and I did a destination wedding and only invited family members. We had a great time and didn't have any drama.
Reply:i would hold off on inviting them....things can change in a year...if they do and y'all become the best of friends, then sure... but dont invite someone just to be nice. That doesnt make sense to invite them when u cant stand them.
Reply:i'ma be honest with you.





If you don't like them now you ain't going to like them a year from now lol so don't even bother wasting your pen ink on them. :-)
Reply:NO WAY. Weddings are charged on a per/head basis. Do you really want to pay for those two heads?





Your wedding day is all about you, and the people you love. End of story. Cling-ons be gone! :)





PS: Congrats!
Reply:I wouldnt invite them. you dont like them and you said they dont like you either. they might think its weird if you invite them because you guys dont like each other.
Reply:You only invite those you are close to. You don't invite the whole office. If you feel that it is being rude to the others. Don't invite any of them. There is no rule saying you have to invite co works. It makes more room for family and friends
Reply:Don't invite them. It's your wedding, you can leave out whoever you want.
Reply:i think if you invite anyone from work, you have to invite everyone. it's just easier that way so that nobody's feelings get hurt. that's what i did for my wedding.
Reply:Only invite those your truly want there. If you only want the 18 there, invite them.
Reply:Cut the crap ;)
Reply:I wouldn't bother inviting them. It's your wedding and you should only have people you really want to be there. I'm sure they know you don't like them and inviting them would only be an act of phoniness.