Do you think its rude to drink at your own house when you invite non-drinkers over?

If it's only 1-2 guests plus you and and your spouse, and one of those guests is a recovering alcoholic it would be extremely gracious of you to have no-alcohol occasion in consideration of your guest's illness. Notice I didn't say that drinking would cross the line over into rudeness, only that there are other, more gracious, options.





If it's a fairly large party, then recovering alcoholics have to choose for themselves whether or not to attend. As a host, if you want to show a little extra consideration for the non-drinkers, you might discourage drinking games and other drink centered activities.





So far, my suggestions have focused on recovering alcoholics, but what about people who don't drink for other reasons, like religious prohibitions, medical conditions (other than addiction disorders), or even just personal choice. It is not rude for you offer them alcohol, nor is it rude to drink when they are there, but it would be questionable if were you were lining up shots on the coffee table around which everyone is seated.





On the other hand, there is nothing rude about people refusing invitations to gatherings where alcohol is served or about them quietly thanking their hosts and leaving when they realize that alcohol is present. If drinkers and non-drinkers what to socialize, then they will work out a booz free canasta night or something.





It is always rude for the host to drink beyond the point of "feeling a bit merry" to the "chit-faced" stage.





If these non-drinkers are your in-laws or something, and their visit is less than 48 hours, it would be wise to not drink or at least drink so discreetly that they don't notice. Why buy a headache?
Do you think its rude to drink at your own house when you invite non-drinkers over?
Not so long as you offer them something they prefer AND you don't over do it. I'm pretty much a non-drinker but I don't have a problem with others having a drink. Why shouldn't they?
Reply:Heck no! If there are lame guests at my house who don't drink or nothin I gotta drink something to make things more interesting.
Reply:no, cause whenever their is a party u must join it(mean ur not KJ in the vicinity) even if u are the organizer of that party..
Reply:yes : if they are not allowed by religious rules


yes : if just they don't like it


yes : if the guy is sick


yes: if they don't like drunken bastards


yes : if that day is special day for those guys
Reply:Heavens no!
Reply:naw, but then again it would depend on your guests. but you can have both alcoholic and non.... drinks
Reply:no. it's your house. i wouldn't flaunt it, or go too wild with crazy cocktails. but i think it's fine to sip a glass of wine or beer, so long as you offer the non-drinkers some other form of beverage.
Reply:No, I do not think it is rude to drink in your own house when you invite non-drinkers over.





The non-drinkers who do not drink (alcohol, I'm guessing) are either under age or teetotalers or suffering from alcoholism so they can not drink.


Teetotalism is the practice and promotion of complete abstinence from alcoholic beverages, people generally choose teetotalism for religious, health, family, and/or social reasons.


In some cases, teetotalism is not a practice by choice. It can be forced by allergy. Such a person may be referred to as someone who has been teetotaled. An allergy to alcohol can develop later in life, even after a person has long consumed alcohol.


People suffering from alcoholism cannot drink either but should be able to adapt to situations where alcohol is available.





Under age youngsters, teetotalers and alcoholics should adapt to the world instead of you adapting to them. If they cannot adapt, then they should stay home.





As a host, you should always provide for non-alcoholic beverages, not only for people not drinking alcohol but also for the ones driving.





Drink and even get drunk in your own house (hey...for once, you don't have to drive home!) and if your guest cannot handle the temptation, he/she was not ready for the party.
Reply:I dont believe it is rude, especially when you have told them. I believe it would be rude drinking in their house. The only tim it would be rude if it was a former alchoholic and they were good friends with you, as that might be making it hard for them, but really its all about warning them about the activities that will be going on in your house.
Reply:emmmm no as long as you offer some and dont go and completely tankedlol a glass or two of wine is good eh
Reply:no, as long as you don't lush, oh and if they are in recovery
Reply:Depends on if that person doesn't drink because of religion. Then you shouldn't drink and respect that. You know what i mean...





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Reply:screw those people that dont drink
Reply:yes it is...thats not good at all....
Reply:If they don't drink because they are trying to give it up then it would be nicer if you didn't but otherwise no.
Reply:it would depend on how they feel about it. if i know they're against it then i wouldn't if i have respect enough for them to invite them to my home then i would respect how they feel about alcohol, also food.


if they don't care whether others drink around them then i probably would if i wanted to.
Reply:I am sure it is not the first time they have been at parties or gatherings and people drank in front of them. It also depends on what type of party it is. Small dinner with just the non drinkers just have one or two and tie one on when they go home. If you are having a party its your house have what ever you want to do what ever you want to you own it from here to the ozone. You only live once if you are worried about what other people think when they come to your house maybe you should not invite those people. Good luck
Reply:I think if you're the only one that is going to be drinking then it's maybe a little disrespectful. I only think this if they have made it very clear that they don't drink and you know they don't like it. On the other hand, if they are people that aren't offended with people drinking then go ahead. It is your house so they can leave. I guess it's just a respect issue. Man, I have that same problem!! lol
Reply:No , not really. Now if there uncomfortable about a party, or you getting toasted, then dont get wasted. Just drink and have fun. Dont worry about the others, but also have some respect for them, by not being rude or getting wasted.
Reply:No its your home if you want a drink there is nothing wrong with it,





after all if they dont like it they can simply leave.
Reply:Perhaps if they were Mormon and it went against their religion - or if they were in AA. It isn't exactly rude, but I would feel uncomfortable.
Reply:yes it is but depends if your taking little sip by sip its ok. but if ur gulping it down it is
Reply:No it is your house and if they don't like it they don't have to be there. Now if you are drunk that is another story. People should be more tolerant.
Reply:As long as you don't get drunk and just have a few to enjoy your self. If they are non drinkers that's their choice just as it is your choice to drink in your home. Bottoms up!
Reply:No I don't think so. Its not invasive like smoking.
Reply:no because if they came they should know whats comming
Reply:No. I don't know about drinking, but I'm a vegetarian. People sometimes feel uncomfortable eating meat around me or making it when I come over. It makes me feel bad because my personal preference shouldn't affect them. My point is that as long as the host doesn't completely overdo the drinking, they shouldn't worry about it. Just make sure the invited have something they like to drink available. If the host is really unsure, they could ask, "Would you be offended if I drank something alcoholic?" If that's too awkward, just opt out until you get to know their preferences better.
Reply:Depends on what you mean by drinking. A lot of Europeans have wine with their meals so drinking like that to me isn't rude at all.


If you are drinking to get drunk when you know they are anti-drinking then yes.


Non-drinkers aren't necessarily Anti-drinkers.
Reply:very
Reply:yes