IMPORTANT - Do you invite your wedding parties partner to the rehearsal/rehersal dinner?

If they are living together, engaged, or married, you MUST invite them.


Otherwise, you don't have to, but it's nice.
IMPORTANT - Do you invite your wedding parties partner to the rehearsal/rehersal dinner?
If people are traveling together from out of town, you should definitely invite both of them to the rehearsal dinner. Otherwise, it's like saying, "I know you came all this way for my wedding, but you're not really important." Even if that isn't what you mean, that's how it feels. And since you don't want your in-town attendants to feel slighted, you should let them bring their dates, also.





My feeling is that if you invited that person to bring a date to the wedding, the date should also be invited to the rehearsal dinner, even if the couple isn't engaged/married. I don't know if there is an etiquette rule for this, but to me it feels like the right thing to do.
Reply:I actually just posted the same question a few days ago, and I got mixed answers. Some people said yes, of course, because it's about being polite and hospitable. Some people said it was up to the bride and groom because the rehearsal dinner can be a very intimate thing (especially when gifts are given out).





We've decided we're not inviting any wedding party boyfriend/girlfriend ... none of them are married. If they were married, then we would. We made this decision because we did, in fact, want a very small, intimate rehearsal dinner, and we didn't want to have the girlfriend/boyfriends who are not involved to feel uncomfortable or left out.





If you're having a destination/out-of-town wedding, and you don't want to invite the spouses or bf/gf's, then organize an outing for them. That's what we're doing because our guests have to drive in at least three hours to the wedding site. Not sure what that outing will be yet, but that's the plan.
Reply:Its what you can afford, I don't think its a question of ettiquete. Inviting the partner/spouse will double the attendance. If people are traveling from out of town it would be polite to invite them. But its up to you and how big or elaborate you want the dinner to be.





Sometimes its wedding party and immediate family only, it gives you a chance to have a more intimate meal with those in the party, since the next day will be nuts!
Reply:You should invite the following people . .


Bride and Groom


Bride's parents


Groom's parents


Maid/Matron of Honor


Best Man


Bridesmaids


Groomsmen and Ushers


Junior Bridesmaids


Flower Girl and at least one of her parents


Ring Bearer and at least one of his parents


Officiant


Any musician that is participating in your ceremony





Your option, your choice


Brothers and sisters (and their partners) of the Bride


Brothers and sisters (and their partners) of the Groom


Bride's Grandparents


Groom's Grandparents


Spouses or partners (long term relationship) of


any wedding party member


Bride's Godparents


Groom's Godparents


Out of town guests who are coming in early


VIPs or close friends





Please keep in mind . . the Bride and Groom should NOT host (organize, plan or pay for) the Rehearsal Party/Dinner. Traditionally it is done by the Groom's parents. And if the Groom's parents are not able to host the party than a close friend or family member can host the party. Neither the Bride nor Groom nor the Bride's parents should host the rehearsal party. YOU, the Bride and Groom, are the guests of honor NOT the host and hostess. YOU, the Bride and Groom, should not select the party/dinner location and should you not select the menu (but it is OK to make suggestions).





Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
Reply:it's your call, but it is courteous to invite spouse or significant others of those who are in a serious relationship.





i think it makes people feel more comfortable, especially if you have a group where everyone doesn't know each other really well or if you have people traveling to be part of the wedding.





of course if you include everyone, it really balloons your numbers...we had about 20 people that were going to be in the wedding that needed to be at the rehearsal, but after inviting significant others, kids, parents and siblings it got to be about 55 people. it was a blast though, and i wouldn't have changed a thing.





good luck and have fun!
Reply:I've only been in 2 weddings. One of them did invite my boyfriend. The other wedding, we were both in the wedding but, one of our friends was also in the wedding and her husband was invited but would have to pay for his meal if he wanted to come. EVERYONE talked about it behind their backs.they said it was rude. so,they didn't come to the dinner. i guess it's up to you. who knows
Reply:You can chose whatever you feel is appropriate, but be prepared, if I had been in a wedding before I was married and the SO wasn't invited, I wouldn't have attended the rehearsal dinner. (Even more so if it was 3 hours from home)
Reply:This is all on you. It's your wedding so if you would like others to come then its up to you. I personally am not inviting my parties guest to the dinner. The only reason I'm not is because i am inviting all of my out of town guest. Again it's your call!
Reply:I just invited the people that was in the wedding. It still was fun and exciting. Some grandparents where there to watch the rehearsal but didn't go to the dinner.
Reply:We are inviting only those who are married or engaged or in a SERIOUS relationship.
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