Do you think it is ok to invite people to your hens night who aren't invited to your wedding??

Technically you're not supposed to invite people to the hen night or shower if they aren't invited to the wedding. That said, most of the showers and hen parties I've been to have included guests who aren't being invited to the wedding. They still want to celebrate the marriage, etc. I'm going to have a tiny wedding (immediate family and two best friends only) and my friends have already said they all want to throw me a big shower and hen party anyway. It depends on the situation but it's generally considered inappropriate.
Do you think it is ok to invite people to your hens night who aren't invited to your wedding??
Definatly Faux Pas! Sorry.
Reply:No, not really. It's kind of hurtful actually. If they're tag-alongs from work that is one thing, but really anyone who goes to your hen party should be invited to the wedding.
Reply:Its not something I would do personally but if you want to then go ahead just be ready for people to question why they have not received an invite to the wedding.
Reply:No, it's not proper ettiquette. I know it's not what you hoped to hear, but it is tacky to include people in showers/parties who you don't invite to the actual wedding.
Reply:No, that's incredibly rude.
Reply:Well just to clarify: the bride and groom and parents invite people to the wedding and the bride's friends and/or coworkers invite other women to the hen's night. A hens' night is for the women to have fun ahead,of the wedding and there could be loads of coworkers who may not be invited to the wedding. Weddings cost a fortune, space for the dinner is generally limited and relatives get first priority. When a coworker gets married, it is fun to throw her a hens' night. I would happily go to a hens' night as well as a bridal shower to show my congratulations but I would not necessariy expect to be invited to a wedding. This way coworkers and galpals can celebrate and, for showers, spend less for affordable gifts if they wish. I sometimes feel uncomfortable receiving a wedding invitation for coworkers of my husband as I know they are spending upwards of $75 a plate for the dinner and, truthfully, they are not "friends", we would prefer not to spend an evening with people who are closer to them, and we normally wold not spend $$ on a wedding gift as the office generally chips in for one large gift. Far preferable just to get asked to a shower or hens' night.
Reply:My bridesmaid had a friend staying with her at the time of my wedding, I did not know her and she was not invited to our wedding, but as she was staying with my friend at the time I asked her to come along for the night out, it was not the "traditional" hen night anyway, we were going to see a band play a live gig, she didn't come but she was more than welcome to. I think if you are good friends with the person then it would not be fair to do that
Reply:no, i don't think its right.


it would be very awkward.
Reply:Absolutely not. If they aren't good enough to get invited to the wedding, why would you invite them to your party?
Reply:As long as the person understands they aren't invited to the wedding and they are ok with it.


I'd be personally insulted.
Reply:If I were invited but not to the wedding, I'd be very offended. I've been invited to showers in the past and then not invited to the wedding and I feel kind of annoyed. I've also been told to "save the date" for a wedding to which I never received an invitation. So my answer is a resounding NO!
Reply:sure why not.
Reply:I think it would be ok. But just ok.





It would be weird, and they would wonder why they aren't invited to the wedding.
Reply:I didn't but my fiance invited blokes to his Stag do that weren't invited. But then, guys are more understanding.





*edit* We couldn't afford to invite all his cricket team or his rugby team but he wanted to invite some of them to the stag do, so thats what he did. They didn't mind in the least. We weren't invited to some of their weddings either.
Reply:No. There is no other way to say it besides "rude". It is like a slap in the face. You are good enough to come to the shower (and bring a gift) but not good enough to come to the wedding.
Reply:I think it would be misleading. And, I would think that anyone that you feel close enough to invite to your hens night, you would also want to invite to the wedding. The only exception would be if one of your bridesmaids had a cousin or something that wanted to tag along for the evening.