Sunday, May 23, 2010

Can I invite my boyfriend to the wedding?

My cousin is getting married and I'll be participating as a bride's maid. Is it ok if I invite my boyfriend to come along?
Can I invite my boyfriend to the wedding?
You'll need to wait until you get the invitation. If it says "Suzie Smith and guest," then yes, you can invite your boyfriend. If it says only your name, then you are not supposed to bring anyone else. Couples sometimes have to limit additional guests because of budget or venue restrictions, and it would be rude to bring someone if your invitation didn't say you could.
Reply:Usually, significant others only get invited to a wedding if they're very serious, living together, or have been together a long time (or are married, of course). It also depends on age. Otherwise, couple's don't like to pay extra for that person if you're not really that serious about him/her. It sounds awful to say, but the dinner is expensive, and the total cost of a wedding is significant, so couple's don't usually think it's worth it to invite the extra person unless they are significant in the other's life.





Ultimately, the decision will be the bride and groom's, and you most likely won't have a say, unless she asks you. You definitely should NOT take it upon yourself to invite him. If your invitation doesn't have your boyfriend's name on it, or doesn't include "and guest" next to your name, you're not allowed to bring anyone, including your boyfriend.
Reply:Aside from the valid "and guest" point mentioned by the other two respondent here, bear in mind that it's not cool being the date of a member of the wedding party if you don't know the couple. I've done it twice now, and at least I knew the couple somewhat both times, but it was still awkward, as I was only there because my fiance was there, not because I had been invited, and I wasn't with him.
Reply:This is something I (the bride) am dealing with right now! While I've told my bridesmaids they can bring their significant other, there are many guests that are invited that can't. We just don't have the budget for it! When you break down the typical wedding, each guest can cost upwards of $100.00. Including food, drinks, cake, rentals; you have to pay 20 cents a plate! And a quarter a glass! Linens are 20 bucks a pop, and so on and so forth. lol, sorry... but seriously, I wouldn't have known all this if I hadn't been faced to pay the bill, so be respectful and if you're not asked to bring anyone either don't or just come out and ask your cousin. Hope that helps!
Reply:No, only the bride %26amp; groom can invite people to the wedding.





Hopefully, they're aware that you have a boyfriend, and will either ask you for his address to send him his own invite, or will send yours with "and Guest" listed after your name.





Call your cousin, and ask if it's okay.
Reply:Only if your invitation states that you may bring a guest. If your invite is addressed to you and only you with no option of a plus one, do not stress the issue as the bride and groom have their reasons for not inviting extra guests.
Reply:If your invitation is addressed to you "and guest", you can bring anyone you want, including your b/f. If it's addressed to you only, bringing a guest would be rude.
Reply:If you cousin invited him, sure. How long have you been dating? If not that long, it might not be a wise idea. Dates to weddings can sometimes scare guys.
Reply:Only if your cousin has said you can bring a guest, or if you have been given an invite with "and guest" otherwise the answer is no and you shouldn't ask to invite someone
Reply:If your wedding invitation doesn't include his name or say "and guest", then it's not okay to invite him or bring him along.
Reply:If you recieve an invitation including your Name %26amp; "Guest" than yes. If not, you shouldn't invite someone.
Reply:he has to be invite by your cousin family ,,, you can also ask her seen it your cousin
Reply:I would ask her. If you are close enough to be her bridesmaid she should have no problem telling you the truth about whether you should/could bring him!
Reply:Only if your invitation said "and guest"
Reply:Ask your cousin. If she doesn't mind there shouldn't be a problem.
Reply:I would ask you cuz. since you a BM you could fee comfortable asking her.
Reply:Ask your cousin if you can bring a guest.
Reply:If she invites you with a guest, then it's okay. Otherwise, I would check with her first.
Reply:As long as youl et your cousin know that he is coming or better yet ask if it is ok. He will have to sit without you if there is a wedding party dinning table and he has to know you need to be available to the Wedding Party for pictures etc.but the answer is Yes but please make it known he is comming.

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