My next door neighbors invited 2 of my other neighbors over with no invite to us. How should we view this?

I am all about people having privacy especially when they are entertaining guests, but this is an awkward situation. My neighbor's next door moved in about 6 months ago. I speak with them all of the time, our kids play, and we see them all of the time. They also talk to 2 other people on our street that they have made friends with. We are friends with one of the couples...the other we are just accquaintences with. We have had them over for dinner not to long ago,they showed up late and didn't seem appreciative. The other evening we were out having dinner as a family on our deck and they had the 2 couples over for dinner(right next door so of course we noticed), no invite to us and they don't like anyone else on the street. I am offended and have hurt feelings, I also see this as they must not like us even though they act like it. How awkward. What is the etiquitte of dealing with this situation?
My next door neighbors invited 2 of my other neighbors over with no invite to us. How should we view this?
The etiquette is to just get over it. Not everyone will like you all of the time. Do you really want people like that as friends anyway? They're still being nice to you because you're still neighbors, but that doesn't mean you have to be best buddies. Life's too short to hold grudges.
Reply:In the long run its best to be friendly and polite but keep some distance and independence from neighbours. Too much of it and misunderstandings arise. In a way its good your neighbours have set the level of the relationship. Each is free to do their own thing. Follow through and carry on by you also having people over without the neighbours. Its not tit for tat. Its just being adult and independent and not living in each others lives the whole time.
Reply:The etiquette on your part is to do nothing. They have a right to invite whoever they want to eat at their home, and to exclude anyone. You don't know their motives. And you don't have to know them.





The question you might consider is why it is so important to you to be liked by these people and invited. I don't say that to be mean, just to ask you to examine why you are so upset. Why do you need them to like you? Are they supposed to invite you every time they have guests from the neighborhood? Are you supposed to invite them every time you have guests from the neighborhood? Let it go. There are more important things to worry about in life.
Reply:I wouldn't jump to conclusions. The only way you can know if they don't like you is if they say "We don't like you." or something like that. Even if they don't, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't be good neighbors. I'm sorry you felt left out. Perhaps you could have a dinner party and invite them, so you can build your relationship?
Reply:Be civil, and aware that neighbourhood politics are different than the politics of family and friends. Step back and don't react. Keep it short, cheery and stay clear.
Reply:Their undercover, let it slide.
Reply:Get over it. They are going to be your neighbors probably for a long time. As long as the kids get along, do your thing and let them do their thing. If they don't want to hang out with you it could just be that you both have different personalities.





There aren't any rules that say if you invite your neighbor over that they have to invite you over.





My daughter has friends over all the time yet, they rarely invite her over. I don't take that as something personal against my daughter, it's just the way it is. Just be happy your kids get along.
Reply:Maybe it was a situation they couldnt themselves get out of? Maybe they didnt want a lot of people in the house with the kids? Dont stress and stop spying next door, you guys are neighbours and friends, its not high school any more.
Reply:Maybe they don't want to ask too many people at one time. I'm sure they'll return your courtesy sooner or later. Don't make too much of it.
Reply:The same thing happens to us frequently. We even invited our neighbor's over for a weekend bbq and they agreed. Then a week before they suddenly had other plans. It's called inconsideration and selfishness. I repay this type of behavior with the fact of knowing that they will need us some day for something and we won't be there for them.
Reply:Just ignore this situation. There isn't any good way to ask why you were left out.





Continue to smile, greet them when you see them. Let the kids play together.





Given some time, things may change.
Reply:Don't embarass yourself or berate your neighbors for not inviting you. Believe me that only makes matters worse, if your neighbors do not want to get to know you better than think of it as their loss. Maybe they don't like you as much as the other two couples which is ridiculous of course because what I've inferred from this passage is that you've been an above average neighbor. Once again don't feel bad, but if you must talk to your neighbors. Don't impose and go banging on the door, if you see them out while your taking out the trash or something of the sort ask them then.
Reply:Get over it, there are dozens of reasons why they might have only invited those two couples and not you. Unless they do this often, leave you out when others are invited without a good reason you should not feel as though they don't like you.
Reply:I don't see why it would make you awkard. There is no situation you simply weren't invited.





Have a dinner party of your own and invite them. I have friends over for lunch but I certainly don't invite them all and there are some I don't invitie at all and itn's not because I don't like them.





I think you are being silly.
Reply:The etiquitte would be for you to act with tact and class, Hi and Byes, be cordial. Ask your other neighbors over for a BBQ and don't invite the ones who didn't invite you. Go with your instincts, if they didn't seem appreciative its probably cause they weren't. You have the same right to invite who you want to your house too!
Reply:You have an overactive imagination. Stop wondering about it, it will only make you bitter.
Reply:they ether want to get to know other people better, or just dont like you, there is not much you can do, just move on and do normal stuff. it happens.
Reply:why are you hurt , why do you feel you should be entertained because you entertained a guest? everyone has friends .and everyone is entitiled to have friends without you over at the same time.
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