My finance wants to invite his ex-girlfriend and her mother to our wedding?

Her mother is better looking than his x and I think he did them both, to tell the truth. He even asked if I would mind if the first dance went to Ginger (his x's mother) What do you all think? He said he would make it a fast dance, but I not so sure I can trust his friend who happens to be the DJ. Anyone?
My finance wants to invite his ex-girlfriend and her mother to our wedding?
This is only appropriate if he has some sort of lifetime relationship with both these women. Sometimes people date when they are 15 and then remain friends, but that's the only reason I can think of.





The first dance -- well that detail makes me think you're asking a fake question. Obviously the first dance is with you and the second is with his mom. Unless his mom is dead and this woman is like a mother to him (See above bc he has known her his whole life)
Reply:omg .. No way in Hel.l would I allow that .. my god what next he wants his first born child to be with this woman ??? . Lady .. do not .. do not let these people come to your wedding ... An are you 100% Sure that you should even be marring him .. he wants his first dance to be with this chicks mom .. my gosh ...





GOOD LUCK.
Reply:You obviously have problems with it, as do I! If he's putting off the first dance to dance with her, I would stop him and remind him that he's marrying you. It's tacky to give up that first dance to someone not even related to you!





Personally I would have a long conversation with him.
Reply:The ex is the past, I can understand that. And even being close with her family. But to have your first dance be with the ex's mother? Hell No! I hope you put your foot down.
Reply:We have a "no exes" rule for our upcoming wedding. It just adds too much tension/stress. And the first dance thing- thats crap and I would put my foot down!
Reply:First dance be with an ex's mother and you are still considering marrying this guy????
Reply:You've got to be kidding? The first dance is between the bride and groom. I can't believe that he asked if it would be ok for him dance with this woman. No way! Put your foot down. This is your wedding (you and your fiance) and you should be focused on making each other happy. I wouldn't be happy to hear my hubby to be wanted to take the first dance for some woman who isn't even going to be famliy to him. Na uh. That's nuts.
Reply:Hahaha...funny story. If it is true (which I doubt...) no one would be marrying the guy, not even you.
Reply:Gyrl relax he probably had a some bad experience in life and she helped him some way so what better way to repay an old friend is let them watch him get married. in away it's show look what could of been you i suggest to talk to him first don't jump into any conclusions as we humans tend to do. It is probably a reason for this. Be optimistic
Reply:If there is so much distrust in your relationship already, then why are you getting married? The last thing I would worry about is who he danced with first, you should be concerned with why he needs to have them there knowing it bothers you.
Reply:Seriously!?! Break it off, and quickly
Reply:my "ex husband" invited his ex girlfriend to our wedding..


its just not right,,find someone else to marry
Reply:I would say HELL NO! Who's he marrying you or his ex's mother. The first dance is for you and him as husband and wife. I wouldn't let him invite them either. If he's that inconsiderate, you may want to rethink this.
Reply:First off... the first dance is YOURS! No other woman should be put ahead of you (except his mom is SOME cases) You are the bride, NO one and i mean NO ONE gets that dance besides you. Who is he getting married to any how??





What i don't understand is if he is going to put you off on YOUR and HIS day then what else does he have instore?
Reply:Think about it your brand new husband would like to have his first dance as a brand new husband with the mother of someone he is not married to. I would tell him to do what every he liked, I would get my money back for everything I paid for and everything he paid for and go find me someone who would wants to spend the 1st moments of my married life dancing with me. Good luck.
Reply:That would just not happen in my world....
Reply:Are you sure he still isn't in love with them???? Be real careful that he's marring you for the right reason.
Reply:No way!
Reply:Why in the world would he ask if he could dance with his ex's mother instead of you for the first dance?? I'd have to put my foot down on that NOW!!!


My fiance's ex actually asked him if she were invited, but he told her it was up to me. My answer - HELL NO!!!


Don't invite them!!
Reply:So she is the Ex let her see who is the woman and who got the ring there is nothing wroung with that because if i was in her shoes i will never show my face let him invite her it is up to her.
Reply:Why does he want the first dance to go to her? What about his parents? Did the x girlfriend mother always been involved in his life, like a mother figure?





I don't think either should attend it doesn't seem right.
Reply:What is this guy nuts - is he really thinking this is OK to do to you on your wedding day - baby - forget him - marry me - I will treat you right!!!
Reply:I don't think it's a good idea, not for you at least.


It's because he still has feelings for her?


You guys should talk about this at make him understand that he would ruin your wedding if they will be there.


Make him choose you or them?


Good luck


P.S. no dances with exes!!!!


This is your wedding!!!Don't let it happen!


He wants to take them to your honeymoon too?


Disgusting!
Reply:There are several ways you can approach this. Hopefully you have trwo guest lists already an A List (for all the people you really want to be there) and a B List (for those people you can live without being there) if he wants them invited then tell you husband to be that they are on the B list which means they only get invites if someone on the A-list can not attend. Also the first dance should only be between the bride and groom. The second dance is for father-daughter(bride) and mother-son(groom) respectively. No where in wedding traditions or even new age thinking does it say and now the groom dances with his ex girlfriend's mom! You should seriously talk to him and make sure that he knows how you feel on the situation because it can easily ruin a wonderful day.
Reply:If you do not want them there he should respect your wishes because this should be the most special day of your life nad you are not obligated to share it with his ex and her mother. And by him even suggesting that the first dance go to his exs mother was plain disrespectful and he should not have even said that to you.
Reply:This sounds pretty absurd to me! I wouldn't allow either one of them to be there. But, it's your wedding and ultimately up to you. Make your decision wisely, because your wedding is YOUR DAY and you only get one! Don't feel pressured to allow them to come and then be miserable or uncomfortable at your own wedding! Good Luck and Congratulations:)
Reply:I would mind if the first dance went to anybody but me. Our only agreed rule was nobody we slept with could be IN the wedding. But any ex's we were still friends with, could be invited. Every invite has to be approved by us both. We can veto anyone but I am not a petty person and I do not do jealousy.
Reply:If he wanted to be with them he would not have waisted his time marrying you. Divorce cost $600 minimum plus half of what he owns. Unless u r trying to tell me that he's that stupid, i don't think he will put himself in that kinda situation knowing what's at stake.
Reply:Sounds like a drunken argument in waiting to me. Bad idea. Plus, you sound pretty jealous.
Reply:Sounds like your fiance just wants to strut his feathers one last time. How disrespectful especially on your wedding day. Hell no! I would not go for that.





Tell those skanks to stay home and if he has a problem with it then you tell him to marry her!





Why would they want to come anyway. They are obviously still attached lonely bitches.





PS. If they try to sneak in, then use your bridesmaids to boot them out!
Reply:DON"T!! Because when the priest or pastor ask "who thinks that this two should not be joined by holy matrimony, speak now or forever hold your peace", the ex will definitely say something.