Do I have to invite spouces of co-workers to my wedding?

I am trying to cut down my guest list without eliminating friends and family. I have never met them by the way.
Do I have to invite spouces of co-workers to my wedding?
According to Miss Manners, a social invitation (unlike a business invitation) is never issued to just one member of a married or engaged couple. Are you sure you want to invite your co-workers? Do you see these people socially? That is, do you share activities with them that are not related to work?





I'm worring this point because it seems odd to me to know people well enough (socially that is, not in a business sense) to invite to such a formal social occasion and yet have never so much as met ANY of the spouses. Inviting people you don't really know socially to a wedding is usually viewed as fishing for gifts.





If you want some special way to celebrate with your co-workers, I suggest you see your boss about giving a "work party" and supplying a cake or catered lunch or some other treat instead of inviting business associates to a social event.





Congrats and best wishes!
Reply:YES.


If someone is married, or in a serious relationship, it is considered poor etiquette not to invite their spouse..... very tacky.





Either invite co~workers with spouses, or don't invite them at all.
Reply:Yes. If you invite someone who is married, you have to invite the spouse. Why not eliminate all co-workers? Tell them you are having a small family wedding.
Reply:I think it would be rude if my husband was invited to a wedding and I wasn't
Reply:Yea, you should. Most invitations sent out for weddings allow the person invited and 1 guest (usually referring to their spouse.) And your coworkers may not want to come if they know they cannot bring their spouses.
Reply:It's considered in extremely poor taste to invite a married person to an event and not invite their spouse.
Reply:Traditionally when you invite someone it permits them to bring a guest ...
Reply:normally you invite the couple to the wedding... very few people would want to come alone without thier spouse.
Reply:I think it would be better.But if you really cant than dont.I understand.I'm on 3000 budget and people are popping out left and right that I forgot of.
Reply:It is widely accepted. Most married people prefer to accompany their mates to that type of gathering.
Reply:Yep
Reply:Most people want to go with their spouses to weddings. I would make sure that all of your family and friends are invited first and then go to your co-workers. Have a list A(family and friends) and B(co-workers, friends of friends, etc.)
Reply:You should allow your guest to bring +1 and ask them to RSVP!
Reply:yes.. if theya re married or seriously dating you are required to invite thier spouse
Reply:when you invite someone-it is customary for them to bring a guest---so if you don't want them to--then don't invite them at all and jsut tell them your only inviting family. Most people do not want to go by themselves.
Reply:yes
Reply:You shouldn't cut them out.
Reply:Yes. If someone is important enough to warrant an invitation to your wedding then they are important enough to bring a guest.





To exclude the spouse of a co-worker would be the epitome of rudeness.
Reply:of course you have to! proper etiquette is anyone over the age of 18 is to be invited with a guest. but even if you dont' follow that rule, anyone you invite, if they are MARRIED, you HAVE to invite their spouse!!! i could not imagine if i ever got invited to a wedding but my husband didn't!!! that would be ridiculous.
Reply:It's pretty standard that when you invite someone to a wedding, that the invitation is addressed to "that person" and "guest."
Reply:Yes, it is common courtesy to extend the invitation to a person's spouse.





A good rule of thumb for crossing people off the list:


1. If you dont have their home phone number


2. If you havent visited them or been out with them in the past 12 months.





I think if you follow these guidelines you'll find it much easier.





Not inviting someones spouse can offend people even more than not sending them an invitation at all.
Reply:Talk to your co-workers first and ask them how they feel. Normally, people are OK with going to a work function and lots of married people would prefer to not be at a table with all people who work together so it should work out. I would talk to them first.
Reply:no need to only invite the employees they can sit together at the table.
Reply:Well all i can say to you is the one big thing.."ITS YOUR WEDDING" you envite who you want
Reply:I'm going against the grain on this one.


If you are limited in space or budget, I see no harm in inviting your co-workers only (no spouses, guests, or significant others). Just be sure to seat them all together so they are near others they know at your reception.